Spotting Abusive Behavior Today

Photo by Alex Green

Abuse comes in any form and way, not all of which are physical; sometimes, it comes mentally and emotionally. When someone repeatedly uses words to frighten or control someone in the wrong way, it’s considered verbal abuse.

People are likely to hear about verbal abuse in the context of a romantic relationship or parent and child relationship. But it can also arise in other family relationships, socially, workplace, or in jobs. Verbal and emotional abuse can also escalate into physical abuse if not given attention and remedy.

It’s essential to be aware of verbal abuse and know the facts and the stories written about as an account of its malignant effect on people emotionally and physically. Sources of information and reports help one become aware of verbal abuse. One book about the inner self of a lifetime of verbal abuse is Innerlight’s by G.M. Crook.

Name-calling 

Name-calling is harmful, whether it’s a romantic connection, a parent-child relationship, or the terror on the playground. Sometimes obvious, sometimes masked as “pet names” or “teasing,” regular name-calling is a way of denigrating you. 

Condescension

Condescension is another endeavor to disparage someone. The abuser’s words can be snarky, arrogant, and condescending. It’s all to make themselves feel superior. 

Criticism

There’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism. But in a verbally abusive relationship, it’s ferocious and continued in an endeavor to chip away at your self-esteem. 

Degradation

Abusers like you to feel poor about yourself. They use embarrassment and shame to tarnish you and eat away your spirit. 

Manipulation 

Manipulation is the exercise of harmful influence over others. People who manipulate others attack their mental and emotional sides to get what they want. Manipulators make you do something without making it a blunt order. They control you and keep you off balance. 

Blame 

We’re all responsible for something once in a while. But a verbally vicious person accuses you of their conduct. They want to acknowledge that you bring verbal abuse on yourself.

Accusations 

If somebody constantly accuses you of things, they may be covetous or envious. Or maybe they’re the ones guilty of that conduct. Either way, it can make you doubt whether you’re doing something unsuitable.

Withholding or Isolation

Declining to talk to you, look you in the eye, or even be in the same space with you is meant to make you work harder to get their engagement.

Gaslighting 

Gaslighting is a systematic effort to make you examine your understanding of events. It can make you apologize for items that aren’t your responsibility. It can also make you more pendant on the abuser. 

Threats 

Outright threats can suggest that verbal abuse will escalate. They’re planned to scare you into submission.

How to Deal with Verbal Abuse

Call Out Abusive Behaviors

The foremost and most significant step when verbally manipulating you is to name it loud. This should be done instantly with the individual; it is safe for you to do so. If the individual verbally controlling you is in a position of power over you, such as your manager, it might not be safe to call it out to them directly. When calling out or approaching the individual who has hurt you, you’ll want to be straightforward with the person, letting them know what they said, how it made you discern, and why it wasn’t an adequate discussion. 

Don’t Engage in the Abuse

When someone is hostile, it’s natural to want to be mean back. This will only escalate verbal abuse and give your abuser a cause to accuse you of being the offensive one. Since you don’t want that, do your best not to employ instantly with the abuse. 

Remain calm

It’s tough when someone is prompting us to remain calm. But that’s the best method to deal with an abusive person since you’re resentful and can escalate the problem. If you aren’t sure how to stay peaceful, you can take deep breaths when entertaining with this someone to make you relax before you speak a single word. 

Set firm boundaries 

Boundaries aren’t just a matter of informing someone they can’t behave a particular way towards you. For borders to be effective at varying behavior, whether your own or anyone else’s, results must be connected to them. 

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s